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How to Maximize the Power of Any Aphrodisiac

maximize aphrodisiac powerIf you have invested your time researching aphrodisiacs or have spent your hard-earned money on one of these items, then you want to rest assured that you are getting what you pay for.  We have all tried things in our lives that seemed to fail in some way or another.  When it comes to increasing your sexual desire, we tend to go for things that are sure-fired methods of achieving what we desire.

Regardless of the type of aphrodisiac you are trying (food or supplement), you want to be sure that you are getting the most bang for your buck (literally!)  Try the below methods of increasing the power behind these food items, products and ideas.  Trust us, when you are in the moment, you will be glad you read this list!

  1. Get a Quality Product – Always think about the quality of a product prior to making a purchase.  You want the best thing for your situation, so you don’t want to skimp out and buy the cheapest thing available.  If you choose a supplement designed to increase your libido, you don’t want to cut corners.  Find the highest quality supplement for your money and you won’t be sorry.
  2. Try Organic, Fresh Foods That Contain Aphrodisiacs – There are many foods that have the qualities of an aphrodisiac. Try cucumbers, celery, chocolate and oysters.  These items are good for boosting your libido, are all natural and easily found in the aisles of your local grocery store.
  3. Share Your Foods With Your Partner – Once you have gone shopping at the market for your aphrodisiac, there is nothing better than sharing the fruits of your labor with your significant other. Don’t keep them all to yourself – it’s always best to share in the benefits of these healthy food items.
  4. Invite Your Partner to Try Your Supplement – If you have purchased an all natural supplement that is designed to boost your sex drive, you should invite your partner to also give it a try. When doing this, always make sure you have your partner’s consent when offering them a taste of your libido boosting supplement.  After all, you care about your partner’s enjoyment, as well.
  5. Enjoy Healthier Living – While eating these healthy aphrodisiac foods, you are not only boosting your sex drive, but you are also eating nutritious foods that are high in vitamins and minerals that your body needs. In effect, you can lose weight by eating these awesome foods.  How’s that for a boost?  Nutritional foods like these have many enzymes that your body needs to increase your testosterone, thus kick starting your libido.  Your lifestyle choices can come into play when it comes to healthier living, so kick the habit if you have a problem with booze or smoking.  Those aren’t sexy and they lessen your sex drive.
  6. Get in Better Shape – When you begin to eat healthier foods, you will begin to feel better about yourself overall. To that end, you may even decide to start working out.  Both of these will work to make you look and feel more attractive than you ever have before.  Squeeze in a walk or a run and you will feel the benefits almost immediately.  The better shape you’re in, the more stamina you will have for any bedroom escapades.  We all know how much work sex can be, especially if you are changing positions more than once.  If you’re in great shape, you won’t have to worry about the toll that being overweight can take on your body when engaging in sexual activity.

No matter what, you want to be sure that you are getting the best value for your money in the product or service that you try.  With foods, there is no return policy and there is a margin for error.  (You may end up cooking all of the aphrodisiac qualities out of the food, etc.)  However, when it comes to an all natural supplement, you want to be sure to get the best quality out there.

You want to look for something that is all natural, safe, effective, and has great reviews.  You shouldn’t trust your sex life and libido to some off-brand aphrodisiac that no one has heard of before.  Try something that is tried and true and for best results, share with your significant other.  If you do, you won’t have to explain why you’re so revved up and ready to go when they’re still at the starting line.  Having great sex isn’t a race, but wouldn’t it be great if you both arrived at the same place around the same time?  When you try a libido boosting supplement, you are taking control over your sexual health and increasing your chances for happiness with your partner.

When your love life is at stake, you want the best possible solution in the shortest amount of time possible.  As such, try your supplements and share the power of having an increased sex drive with your partner.  This way you can double the fun for the same cost.  What’s not to love about that?  Try to have fun with your aphrodisiacs, but make sure that you have your partner’s permission before sneaking something into their drink.  Enjoy these items responsibly and your sex life will definitely flourish!

Lastly, you want to make sure to read all that you can possibly find on these supplemental items that claim to increase your libido.  They are not all created the same, trust us.  Some are simply differently branded items in a fancier box that is generated to squeeze more money from you.  Read the fine print when it comes to these items and you will get the most quality supplement for your money.  Your sex life depends on it!

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Is Moving In Together Killing Your Sex Life?

moving in togethr and sex lifeIf you have been dating someone for a length of time over six months (generally), then the chances are high that you have had the conversation about moving in together.  If you have taken this step in your relationship, then you might have seen your sex life dwindling before your very eyes.  Consider whether or not moving in together has effectively killed your sex life.  If it has, then you can follow the tips outlined below to get things back to the way they were without sacrificing your relationship.

You have probably come from your own space where you shared dates with your significant other.  Things were new and exciting and the sex was fabulous.  Now that you see each other every day, things might have cooled off.

Here’s what you can do to avoid burnout when it comes to a healthy sexual relationship with your partner:

  1. Plan for Dates – Enjoy date nights with one another where one person is charge of the dinner plans and then you can alternate. Doing this together increases closeness, but keeps the air of mystery alive within your relationship.  If you continue dating, you continue showing your partner that you still care about the things that brought you together in the first place.  It shows him or her that you care about their needs and wants, while leaving the worries of your everyday lives behind – even if for only one night.
  2. Go Away Together – Take a vacation or just a quick getaway. You can eliminate thoughts about bills, work and your daily schedules and simplify things between you.  This will help you remember why you were a couple in the first place by strengthening the bond you share.
  3. Buy Her Flowers – Even the little things still matter, like flowers. When you are out, before coming home, pick up a nice bouquet of flowers.  It will let her know that you still think about her even when she’s not around.
  4. Plan a Special Dinner for Him – There are two ways to a man’s heart, one through his mind (think sex and love) and the other is through his stomach (think food). When he arrives home from a hard day’s work, treat him to his favorite meal.  This will show him that you care enough to want to cater to his wants and needs.
  5. Do What He Likes for a Day – If he has a particular favorite hobby or sport, try doing that for the entire day. It will show him that you have been listening when he talks about baseball or his favorite video game.  In this way, you will both learn more about each other while getting closer.
  6. Surprise Him with Sex – If he isn’t expecting regular sex on a Friday night, drag him to the bedroom and rip his clothes off. When you take the initiative, he will be that much more turned on.  He will be so excited that he will have no choice but to let you have your way with him.
  7. Do a Striptease – Everybody likes a bit of a show and your man is no different. Slowly take off each of your items of clothing until you’re down to your bra and panties.  When you are down to your panties, you can end the show by making him take them off of you.
  8. Free Yourselves from Distractions – There is nothing worse than getting ready to have a wild night of passion than to have your children or your boss interrupting the fun. Turn off your cell phones and hire a babysitter if you need to.  Think about all of the fun you can have together when you don’t have to worry about stopping to do other things.  You deserve a break from all of life’s distractions and it will allow you the opportunity to work on your sex lives.
  9. Enjoy Each Other’s Company – Simply enjoying each other’s company is something that often gets overlooked in this day and age. People are mostly way too focused on technology and all of their gadgets to really make a connection with one another.  You can start to enjoy your partner’s company by having a day when you just talk without constantly staring at your cell phone or tablet.  You may even be able to have a night at a hotel free of your devices.  Start small and see where it goes from there.
  10. Schedule Some Time with Your Friends – You have probably heard of the phrase: “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” In your case, if you are living together, then there is likely not much time that you’re both apart from one another.  Ladies, schedule a girls’ night out with some of your friends and paint the town red.  You will give him some free time to enjoy his own hobbies while spending quality time away from home.  When you come back home, you both might have missed one another.  What better way to express those feelings than a wild romp in the bedroom?

If you have taken your relationship to the next level where you are both sharing the same space, it doesn’t mean that you have to keep things dull and boring.  When we live with someone, we may have the tendency to fall into a routine.  Routines, while great, can sometimes turn boring.  Routines can also cause all to lose intimate touch with our partners.  Following the steps listed above, you can take back control of your sexual relationship regardless of your living situation. Overall, you want to have a healthy relationship with your significant other and that includes having a healthy sex life.

You may feel like you have spent way too much time together to really be free to be intimate.  However you feel, there is a way to work around that if you are both willing to put in the time and effort necessary to go forward in your relationship.

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9 Steps to Seducing a Woman

how to seduce womenIf you are going to be intimate with a woman for the first time, then you should work on your powers of seduction.  When you can seduce a woman and do it right, they turn into putty in your hands.  Forget about talking dirty for the time being.  Your best bet to seduce your lady is to follow the tips below to ensure that she is the complete focal point of your sexual escapades.

With the steps provided, you can be on your way to the ultimate seduction of that special lady in your life.  The first eight tips are for those men who are in new sexual relationships, while the last tip is dedicated to men in longer term relationships.

  1. Kiss Her Gently – Women enjoy a tender touch from a man, especially in the beginning of any sexual relationship.  Try kissing her softly and leaving her wanting more.  This will work to get her ramped up for the events to come.  It may even cause her to want to take over and handle things on her own.
  2. Touch Her – Go slow with touching and pay attention to her body’s response to your touch. Pay attention to details when it comes to something she signals feels good and what doesn’t.  If she moves in closer to your body, you can take that as a signal that she is enjoying what you are doing.  If she backs away or flinches, regard that as something that she may not wish to have repeated.  Listening to her body language can help you do what you’ve set out to do and that is giving her an orgasm that she will never forget..
  3. Ask Questions – Many women climax based off of different stimulation. When doing any kind of sex act with your lady, ask her if she likes the way you are touching her with your hands, mouth or other body parts.  She may be shy, so you can ask if she wants you to go faster or slower.  When you ask questions, it shows her that you care about her having the best possible sexual experience.  Questions like, “Are you enjoying this?” or “Should I slow it down (or go faster)?” will communicate to her that she is in the driver’s seat when it comes to the intimacy of the act that you are sharing.
  4. Listen to Her – If you are asking questions of what your lady enjoys, then you should actively listen to everything she is telling you. Paying attention to her body and responses shows her that you aren’t merely participating for your own satisfaction.
  5. Have Confidence – Even if you don’t have confidence with regard to your sexual exploits, fake it. Displays of confidence makes her feel more secure in having you as a sexual partner.  If you are confident, then she can relax knowing that you are fully in charge of giving her pleasure.
  6. Focus on Her – For the first few times of sexual intercourse with a new lady, you want to place all of the focus on helping her achieve orgasm. Many men can go through relationships with women and not know exactly what she likes.  If you can learn what she enjoys early on, your relationship can progress and flourish.  If you make sex all about her, she will always return the favor with enthusiasm.
  7. Don’t be Selfish – Think about giving her pleasure and worry about what comes next for you later on. When you give up the selfish thinking, you can open yourself up to giving her the best sex she has ever had.  If she sees that you are a giving person, then she will be open to being more giving with you.
  8. Keep it Simple – At least in the beginning of any new sexual relationship, you are going to want to keep the sexual shenanigans simple. It isn’t cool to break out the whips and chains during your first sex session, so keep the sex play to regular, vanilla sex.  There will be time for you to share your fantasies with each other, but in the beginning, you should concern yourselves with pleasing each other.
  9. Be Adventurous – For those who have been in a long-term relationship, this one is for you. Be adventurous when it comes to sex and it will make your relationship last even longer.  I’m not talking about having sex in a public place like a library, but a change in scenery could do you both some good.  Rent a hotel room with a Jacuzzi and enjoy yourselves.  Put on some mood music, light a candle and kill the lights.  She will love the idea and will be relaxed in this new environment, completely free from distractions.

Having a great time in seducing the woman of who you wish to be intimate is going to pay you back ten times over.  When your lady realizes the amount of effort you have placed into satisfying her needs and making her sexual satisfaction the center of your sexual journey, she will be happy and ready to give you back that ten times over.

When you are first intimate with a woman, there is a good chance that you are hoping for a repeat performance sometime down the line.  If it proves to be memorable for her, then there is a great chance that you will have the opportunity to progress in your sexual exploits together.  When you are both comfortable, you can move in with the dirty talk, sex toys or anything else that suits your fancy.  Overall, you want to encourage her to feel open and honest with everything you are sharing together, sexually and otherwise.

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Surprise: Your Partner Knows When You’re Faking An Orgasm

don't fake an orgasmThis might prove to be a shocker for any woman out there faking orgasms – your partner knows all about it.  He may not know the exact reasoning behind your actions, but he can probably tell when you’re not reaching your sexual peak.  Hopefully, if you are one of the many fakers out there, this article will pique your interest.

According to published studies, eighty percent of women have faked an orgasm (or more) in their lifetimes.  So, if you belong in that category, you should know that you are not alone.  Even worse, there are women out there who aren’t able to climax whatsoever.  If you’re part of that unlucky group, then you might want to reach out and discuss the matter with your doctor.  For the rest, read on about reasons behind faking orgasms and what you can do to achieve real orgasms that you won’t have to lie about.

Reasons Behind Faking It

Of the many women surveyed who have claimed to have faked their orgasms, many say that they do it to avoid hurting their man’s feelings.  Perhaps your guy is going the extra mile in order to try and please you, but nothing seems to be working to get you to the point of no return.

Maybe you’re too tired for sex or are in pain and just want to hurry the experience along.  Either way, instead of communicating, women who fake it are covering up their feelings and trying to shelter their partners from their true feelings.

You May Feel Like You’re Disappointing Your Partner

Again, this goes along with trying to avoid hurting your partner’s feelings.  When it comes to sex, if you’re faking it so that you don’t disappoint him, you’re doing both of you a disservice.  In addition, there is a good chance that he is going to be able to sense when you aren’t getting as much enjoyment out of the sexual experience.

Many men are finely tuned to their partners’ bodies and know when they have reached orgasm.  Even still, he may know that you’re faking it and still choose not to talk about it to avoid causing you embarrassment.

In order to improve the satisfaction that you get from sex, you can follow the tips below:

Talk Openly About Sex

Many married couples report that they are more sexually satisfied than couples who haven’t tied the knot.  We aren’t telling you to run right out and tie the knot now, but there is something to be said for people who are in long-term relationships.  These couples don’t normally hold anything back about sex or their enjoyment in it, so they are less likely to fake it when it comes to orgasms.  If you couple that with spending a great deal of time with your partner, you are bound to know everything there is to know about them – including their sexual preferences.

The best and healthiest relationships have a great level of communication in all aspects, sex included.

Ask Your Partner About Their Sexual Preferences

We don’t walk into relationships knowing everything there is to know about our partner’s sexual wants and desires.  What better way to get to know what they like than to simply ask them?   While men are typically stimulated by contact with the penis, women who want to achieve an orgasm can be different animals.  Some can be stimulated by rubbing the clitoris, while others need sexual intercourse or G-spot stimulation in order to come.  Either way, it only benefits your sexual relationship and relationship overall to ask for your partner’s preferences and keep that in mind when you’re engaging in sexual activity.

Why Not Try Something New?

There is nothing worse than going to have sex with your partner and it’s the same old boring sex that you’ve had many times before.  Instead of having sex on Wednesday as scheduled at 8pm in the missionary position, why not give that up and try something completely different?

Whether you choose different scenery, a different position entirely, toys or lingerie, you will both fully enjoy the benefits of taking things up to a higher level.  You are on the right path when you decide to let your imagination take over.

Try An Aphrodisiac

Aphrodisiacs are comprised of things that you can put into your body to increase your libido, or sex drive.  These can consist of foods, beverages or vitamins that work with your body to increase your pleasure sexually.

Many aphrodisiacs are made up from herbs that can stimulate testosterone production or work to increase the levels of serotonin in our bodies.  In a lot of cases, aphrodisiacs are still a mystery to modern science, but a lot of people have reported the many benefits they have seen from these foods and herbs.

If you wish to increase intimacy overall, try a food that is considered an aphrodisiac.  These foods can be anything from strawberries, bananas, nuts, figs, celery and chocolate to watermelon and oysters.  The good news about these wonderful food items is three-fold: they are inexpensive to purchase, all natural and easy to find at your local grocery store.

Instead of being one of the people who fake their orgasms with their partner, your sexual desire will be through the roof.  No longer will you just want to “get it over with” so that your partner will have an orgasm, but you will be joining him in the ecstasy and intimacy created by sexual contact.

With these little changes that you can make to your diet, you and your partner can both be on your way to increased intimacy, libido and a higher rate of achieving those elusive orgasms.  These methods are natural and don’t have any side effects at all.  Consider adding a supplement into your life if the foods we’ve mentioned don’t help you in the sex department.  There are various herbs and vitamins that can work with your body to help you stimulate your sex organs.

Now that you have all of this information, it’s completely up to you to use it!

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11 Tips For Increasing Intimacy Before And After Sex

sexual intimacyMost of the time when you think about sex, you think about the act itself and not the things that come before or after it.  In order to build intimacy between yourself and your partner, you should think about the events leading up to your sexual encounter in addition to the things that happen afterward.  When giving these times your full consideration, you open the door to having a greater amount of intimacy overall.

There are many various things that you can do with each other in order to up the level of intimacy that you both share.  Below, we discuss each in full detail so that you and your partner can grow even closer to one another – before and after the act.

You may notice that you probably do any number of these things already, but read on for our list of things to do to spice things up.

Massage Your Partner

Before sex, touching your partner by giving them a massage might work to encourage their anticipation for more intimate touching.  It doesn’t take being a pro to rub your partner down, so break out some oils and work those muscles.  Massage actually loosens up tight, stressed muscles, so it works both before and after sex to increase intimacy.  Before sex, it might get them in the mood, but afterward, it could work to say thank you for a meaningful sexual experience.

Cuddle With Each Other

Most of the time, cuddling works after sex in order to build your level of intimacy with your partner.  Simply curl up together, snuggle in closely and talk.  Or – don’t talk – it’s up to you.  You will feel your intimacy increase when your bodies are close without having sex.  Before sex, it will build anticipation, but afterward, it’s great for conveying that awesome feeling of being loved.

Share An Intimate Conversation

After sex, lay in bed with your partner and quietly talk about your day.  If you need your partner’s opinion on something or want to know how they’re feeling, take some time to talk about it together.  When you talk, be sure to avoid subjects that may lead to an argument or confrontation.  Having a stimulating or thought-provoking conversation is great, but leave the debates for times when your energies are so relaxed.

Prepare A Meal For Your Partner

Fixing your partner something to eat can work before or after sexual activities.  If you cook for them, it could lead to great sex, but after sex, it could replenish his or her energy.  Also, you can try eating foods that are considered to be aphrodisiacs before sex – in order to get you and your partner both in the mood.

Have A Bath Together

Run a nice, warm bath and hop in!  This idea also works for showers, so let the water get hot and clean each other up.  Before sex, this will get you touching each other.  After sex, you can sensually clean your partner’s body and possibly get worked up for round two.

Kiss Deeply And Passionately

Kissing someone can be one of the most intimate things you do together.  We’re not talking about a peck on the cheek – we’re talking about long lasting deep kisses that are passionate.  This is another item that works both before and after sex, but can also lead to another sexual escapade if done right.

Get In The Mood With An Aphrodisiac

Using aphrodisiacs have been a long-standing way of increasing sexual desire for yourself and your partner.  As far back as ancient times, people have used foods and other vitamins and minerals in order to increase sex drive.  If you want to increase your desire for sex, try eating the right foods, taking your vitamins and a well tested aphrodisiac.  You won’t be sorry!

Walk Together Holding Hands

Hold hands and take a stroll together for an increased level of intimacy.  People often forget about the sweetness and intimacy in hand holding, so bring it back with full force!  If you are touching each other, it is bound to increase the intimacy you both share.

Send Flirty Texts

In this day and age, we can send each other flirty text messages to show that we care about one another.  Not only does it tell your partner that they’re on your mind, but it also works to build anticipation for the sex act.  Bonus: Text your partner what you want to do him when you see him!  He’ll be revved up for some marathon sex after some naughty texts are exchanged.

Show Them Gratitude

No matter how small of thing that your partner has done for you, always show them that you appreciate everything they do.  If your partner has cooked dinner, did the dishes, washed clothes or simply did something to save you the trouble – say thank you.  If he doesn’t return the favor by showing gratitude, he may just begin to learn from your good example.

Touch Each Other In Public

This goes along with holding hands in public places.  Don’t be fearful of public displays of affection or your partner will sense that in you.  Put your arm around your partner, hold hands and play footsies together.  Never underestimate the power of the human touch in creating an increased level of intimacy.  Besides, sex is all about touching, so when you touch with your clothes on, you both might be able to get revved up for a romp in the bedroom later.

Increasing intimacy with your partner should be on your list of things to do when trying to keep and maintain a healthy relationship.  It’s not brain surgery, but it could help you to grow closer to your partner so that you can build a long lasting, healthy relationship with one another.

Communication is a key ingredient in building intimacy, so be free with your words as long as they are honest and not hurtful.  Communication also leads you to open up about your sexual needs and how your partner can work to better satisfy them.

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7 Things That Are Killing Your Sex Life

things that kill your sex lifeIf you’re like most people, you aren’t open to freely discussing your bedroom activities.  We all want those fairytale romance scenes that we read about in books and see in romance movies, but the reality is sometimes not even close.  A lot of times, women struggle with a low libido, thus putting a damper on their bedroom activities.

There are a myriad of things that could be killing your sex life, so we have compiled a list of some of the most popular culprits for low libido.  Below, read through our list and see if any of these things are contributing to your lack of fun in the sack.  If they are the culprits in your lack of libido, then you can easily remedy these situations in order to reignite the fire in between the sheets.

Not Experimenting

Lack of experimentation in the bedroom could be killing your mood, so why not listen to your partner’s sexual wants and desires?  The next time he suggests fooling around in costumes or trying a new position, be ready to roll with it.  When you let him know that his suggestions are welcomed, it frees both of you to simply go with it and enjoy the experience.

Stress

Long, boring work days got you down?  You’re not alone.  When you’re feeling overwhelmed with work related things on your plate, you may want to leave those problems at the office.  Stress can play a huge role in whether or not you enjoy sexual activity, so leave it behind and enjoy yourself.  In case you weren’t aware, stress can have a huge impact on your libido

Being Overly Embarrassed

Many of us don’t like our bodies for some reason or another.  Maybe you’ve looked in the mirror and saw that you have a little extra in the middle or your thighs are bigger than previously thought.  Also, we might cringe in horror when our bodies make unexpected noises.  In order to combat this common issue, realize that it’s not the end of the world and men are usually more focused on the act of having sex.  More often than not, these minor insecurities are all in your head and are things that he doesn’t notice.

Medications

There are a few medications out there that could be interfering with your sex drive.  Among those are birth control pills, antidepressants, antihistamines and beta blockers.  Usually your sex drive will suffer as a result of using these medications, but you should read the labels to be sure of side effects.  Lastly, you can always reach out to your physician in order to try a different method in dealing with your symptoms in order to avoid the effects these medications have on your libido.

Diet

There are a variety of foods that can work against your libido.  These foods include anything processed, kale, cabbage, turnips, soy and Bok Choy.  Simply put, you can merely avoid buying these items at your local grocery store and instead, opt for foods that are healthy and increase your libido.  In addition to those foods, you should also avoid alcohol, caffeine or sugar because they work to block key nutrients that help your libido along.

Many foods exist that work to increase your low sex drive.  Try eating oysters, strawberries, chocolate, avocadoes, celery, pomegranates and other items that work to increase libido.  These are all natural, delicious solutions to a common problem.  The good news is that they can be relatively inexpensive and can help you where you need it.

Boring Routines

While sometimes it’s a good idea to schedule sex into your calendar, repeatedly having Thursday sex might not be so great.  If you find that you and your partner are routinely saving your sexy escapades for a specific day each week, you might both get bored.  In order to spice things up, take sex off of the schedule and have it when the mood strikes.

In addition to being spontaneous, you can also go for a change in scenery to make things interesting.  For the best results, get a babysitter for your children (if you have any) and reserve a hotel room that has a Jacuzzi in it.  Consider lowering the lighting and playing some sexy mood music to get your partner in the mood for sex.

Your Approach To Having Sex

Getting yourself in the mood for sex is different for men and women.  While men are wired for sex and might always seem to be in the mood, women have to feel a level of desire in order to get down and dirty.  Sometimes, women feel that they should be in the mood to have sex if their partner is, but that can also work against them, leaving them depressed and having zero confidence.

In order to gain a woman’s interest in sex, men must give them encouragement.  Things like touching, talking dirty or stimulating her erogenous zones will work to encourage her interest in sexual activities.

Overall, you want to be able to ensure that your sex life is intact so that you can both enjoy the activity without worry.  If you can’t seem to get in the mood for sex, head to the grocery store and purchase foods that are considered aphrodisiacs.  These can work to help boost both you and your partner’s libido.  All of the items on this list are controllable by you, so you now know what you need to do in order to make the best of your sex life.

After all, we all want healthy sex lives in order to enjoy our relationships with our partners.  You can build your sexual desire by putting in the time and effort necessary to create great situations that encourage awesome sex.  Eliminate boring scheduled sex sessions, distractions, libido zapping foods and any embarrassing thoughts you might have about sex so that you can enjoy a better experience.  Life is much too short to go on without the enjoyment of a healthy sex drive, so you want to get any obstacles out of the way, no matter if they are physical, mental or emotional.

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Getting Back In The Mood For Sex: A Guide

getting in the mood for sexIf you are a busy person, then there’s a good chance that you probably haven’t made time for sex.  According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, women between the ages of 18 and 59 have a 43% chance of having problems when trying to get in the mood for sexual activity.  Unfortunately, that is quite a high number – but it doesn’t have to be you.

If you’ve experienced trouble when attempting to get in the mood for sex with your partner, then you should know that you’re not alone.  If you’re reading this, then you want to get yourself back in the mood to having a quality sex life with your partner.

Read the below reasons for low sex drive below so that you can face them head-on:

Exhaustion

If you maintain a busy lifestyle and work a lot of hours in the day, then you may be too tired for sexual activity.  To battle this, consider taking time off to enjoy with your partner.  Plan your next vacation in a place where there is no stress and just enjoy yourself.  Life is too short to work to just pay bills, so relax your busy schedule and set aside some time to engage in sex with your partner.

Low Testosterone Production

Testosterone production is necessary for having a high sex drive in men and women, so consider this as the culprit especially if your diet isn’t balanced and nutritious.  To aid in the production of testosterone in your body, consider adding tuna, beans and oysters to your diet.  These foods work to ramp up the levels of testosterone in your body and increase your libido.

Medications

If you are suffering from a low libido, but are taking various medications, then you may want to check with your physician to see if these medicines are to blame for your low sex drive.  Some medications can treat various health problems, but a side effect could be how they affect your sex drive.  If you’re taking prescription drugs to fend off high blood pressure or diuretics, these can cause lowered libido.  For the best possible results, ask your doctor or pharmacist for any useful information on the effects that these medications may have on your libido.  For a more private solution, you can always read over the patient information insert that comes along with your prescriptions to see if lowered sex drive is a side effect of the medication you’re taking.

Unresolved Partner Issues

If you have any unresolved issues with your partner, this could be to blame for your lack of sex drive.  Try opening up the lines of communication with your significant other and talk about the things that might be bothering you.  This clears the air and makes way for a healthier relationship overall.  Besides, it’s hard to think about giving someone pleasure if you’re angry with them, so resolve any issues and your sex life is bound to flourish.

Self-Image

If you have zero confidence in your body and hate the way it looks, you are bound to project that in the bedroom.  As we age, our bodies change and maybe you just haven’t had time to work out like you’ve used to.  Either way, your level of confidence or lack thereof is a dampener on your libido.  To fight a poor self image, you can either enjoy some exercise with your partner or learn to accept your body as it is.

Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction can lead to a loss of libido in men, because of the stress placed upon them for obtaining and maintaining an erection.  To break the anxious cycle, men can talk to their doctor about this common medical issue.  Rather than dreading a sexual encounter with your significant other, why not enjoy it?

Obesity

Just like other self-image issues, as we age and get comfortable with our partners, we may have a tendency to forgo our usual exercise routines.  If you’re overweight or suffering from obesity related issues, then you may not feel as attractive as you used to.  To battle your bulge, consider asking your partner to join you for a regular walk or run.  Eliminating excess body weight will work to increase the confidence you have in yourself and your partner will also enjoy the results.

Boredom

If you are one of those couples who are used to having sex every Saturday night in the same position and for the same amount of time, you might be bored in the bedroom.  The good news is that you don’t have to be!  You can spice up your sex life by adding some toys into the mix or just by merely changing the scenery.  You don’t always have to engage in sex in the bedroom, so try to gradually add a little pep into your sex life by changing rooms.  When you’re comfortable with that, you can rent a hotel room for the night and go into full seduction mode.  Your partner and sex life will flourish as a result.

No matter the cause of your low libido, you can take comfort in knowing that there is help out there for your situation.  First, you can start handling the issue by talking with your partner and getting their opinion on the matter.  If that doesn’t help, take a look inside your medicine cabinet and study up to gain as much knowledge as you can on the medications you’re taking.  Lastly, you can always speak to your physician about any medical concerns you have.  The chances are really high that your medical doctor has heard just about everything you can think of, so don’t think that you’re the only one on the planet suffering from a low libido.

The good news is that there is help and you no longer have to suffer in silence.  As long as you’re working toward a solution, then you have nothing to fear and everything to gain. Low libido affects many people, but it doesn’t have to affect you. When talking with your doctor, give them as many details as possible so that they can give you the best treatments available.

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Advice For Building A Better Relationship

build a better relatoinshipA great relationship is important in life and if you need help in that department, read this article with your partner.  In order to strengthen the bond that you have with your partner, you need to realize that you are going through life as a team.  There are many ways that both you and your significant other can work to build a better, healthier relationship.  If you want to grow closer to one another, then read the tips below to become a better partner.

Spend Quality Time Together

You can really grow to know and love your partner better by spending quality time together.  In this way, you can learn the types of hobbies they enjoy, what they do for fun and any sports they enjoy.  Hang out with family members and friends and just enjoy being in your partner’s company.  In addition, you will learn how to relate better to your partner so that you can stay involved in their life and vice versa.

Open The Lines Of Communication

Be sure that you’re talking with your partner regularly.  You need to have open lines of communication without regard for the topic if you really want your relationship to succeed.  Most relationships breakup because of the unwillingness for one of the people involved to talk about something that might be bothering them.  Instead of keeping things bottled up inside, talk to your partner and see if they can offer you support and at least some understanding of what you’re going through.

Your bond with your partner is strengthened through your ability to express your feelings, thoughts and fears.  Honest communication is the key to any great relationship, so keep an open mind and discuss how you’re feeling with your partner.

Handle Money Issues Together

It’s a terrible burden when only one partner is feeling the pinch of your shared financial problems.  Many married couples state that their only real problems for their first year of marriage revolved around their finances.  While this may not be a problem for those involved in new relationships, you can bet that money will play a role in your relationship at some point.  If you decide to live with your partner, then you’re going to have to discuss who’ll be responsible for handling any money issues.  In addition, you’ll also have to split the bills, so talking about this openly will avoid future possible conflict.

Spice Up Your Sex Life

To build a better relationship, you may need to keep things interesting when it comes to the sexual aspect.  Perhaps a change in scenery could do wonders for your relationship?  Maybe if you tried a new position or an aphrodisiac, you could see immediate benefits?  Either way, to prevent your relationship from getting stale, try something new.  You’ll both be happy that you did and the spice could make things more interesting.

Make Your Partner’s Happiness Matter To You

When you put your partner’s happiness is above your own, it makes for a quality relationship.  There is nothing better than two people who are laser focused on doing things that make their partners happy.  In these ideal relationships, there is an equal amount of give and take – and both parties enjoy the benefits.

Work Through Disagreements

In any relationship, you’re going to have disagreements at some point or another.  When you come across something that you and your partner share differing opinions on, it’s best to work through your disagreements.  While some couples can work things out calmly, others need to yell and scream.  No matter how you get through conflict, it is best to deal with it without fear of retaliation.  In this way, you are able to resolve any problems that may pop up without worrying about being degraded for your point of view.

Compromise

Where there is conflict, there is one side of the relationship who feels they may not be getting their way.  The key to dealing with this is offering up a compromise to your problems.  With each party giving and taking a little, both parties get satisfied.  In this way, neither party gets exactly what they want, but it is a reasonable solution to many problems.

Have Date Nights Out

You got into a relationship by going out on dates to many different places with your significant other, so don’t let that stop you once you’re in a relationship.  The key to a great relationship is taking the time to get ready for dates and spending quality time with your partner that lets them know they still matter.

Some couples begin their relationships by going out on dates, but completely ignore that once they are living together or married.  Going out on dates together rekindles the love that you share for one another and spark memories of when you both first fell in love with each other.

To make your date super special, go to a location you visited when you first began dating or watch a movie that you’ve seen when you were dating.  For men, buy her flowers and treat her like you did when you were trying to win her over.

Know What Your Partner Likes Sexually

We all know that sex plays a huge role in any healthy relationship and it works especially well when you know what your partner is into sexually.  Knowing this information means that you have taken the time to pay attention to your partner’s physical responses to various things you’ve done in bed.  When you know what your partner enjoys, you can both enjoy your play time equally.

Just reading this article is enough to know that you care about building a better relationship with your significant other.  It all boils down to learning all there is to know about your partner, working through problems, talking things over and paying attention to their bodies when involved in sex.  Relationships are work if you want to do them right, but it doesn’t always have to feel like work.

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How Obesity Can Affect Your Sex Life

obesity affects sex lifeBoth men and women often lose their body confidence when having sex if they are overweight.  We all want to live happy and healthy lives, but with our busy schedules working and everything else, our health sometimes pays the price.  Getting fast food or frozen processed food at the grocery store seems to have replaced using home grown ingredients in our meals.  As a result, we put on a few extra pounds.  Unfortunately, once bad habits are established, they become very hard to break.  With food, obesity usually is the result and since we put on the weight little by little, we hardly notice when our waistbands get tighter.  By that time, you might feel that there is little to be done to get into better shape, but there is hope.  Obesity can rule your life if you let it, but you can fight to get trimmer and not let being overweight affect your sex life.

The Connection Between Weight And Libido

If you’ve gained weight, then you might not be as confident as you once were when it comes to having sex with your partner.  If you don’t like the way your body looks when you’re naked, you may become too focused on covering yourself and not focused at all on giving or receiving pleasure.  You can be too preoccupied with how your body might jiggle and lose yourself in worrying that your body isn’t attractive enough for your partner’s or your enjoyment.

If you’re really concerned about getting your clothes back on, then you may not have a good time in between the sheets.  If you’re lacking confidence, then you probably don’t feel sexy.  This can lead to you only wanting sex during the night time when you can be assured that your partner won’t see your body entirely.

According to studies, your body mass index can really mess with your sex life.  The hormones affecting your libido can get thrown out of whack when it comes to gaining or losing any amount of body fat.

Even worse is the insecurity that comes with being overweight or obese.  Instead of enjoying sex, you could be too focused on how your partner feels about your body – leaving you not in the mood for sex whatsoever.

Obesity and Sex

Physical attraction definitely plays a role in your sex life and being obese can affect you negatively.  Obese people are viewed differently in society as opposed to people who are fit.  If you’ve grown in size since the beginning of your relationship, your partner may no longer wish to have sexual contact with you.

In this manner, obesity can leave you feeling depressed.  Your sex life is an important aspect of your relationship and not being able to partake in sexual activity may leave you feeling unwanted and unattractive.  If you’re not involved in sex with your partner, you may feel sexually frustrated and unsatisfied.  Physical attraction is all about appearance, so you want to make sure that your body is desirable to others.  If you are unable to maintain a healthy, fit appearance, your partner may lose interest in you completely.

The Sex Lives Of Healthy People

Those people who are good looking, take great care of themselves and workout regularly are the people who are enjoying the best sexual experiences.  When someone finds you attractive, you feel sexy and lose any inhibitions you may have had regarding sexual activity.

It is necessary to keep your body in good shape if you wish to attract a great partner.  When you maintain a healthy physique, your sex life will benefit as a result.  Fit people enjoy healthy sex lives because of the attention they pay to their bodies and overall health.

Studies have shown that people who exercise on a regular basis feel better about their bodies and have an adequate supply of energy for sexual activities.

Working Out Gets You Ready For Sex

When you get your body exercising, it revs it up for sexual activity.  Not only will you feel better about yourself overall, but working out increases sexual sensations quickly.  When you exercise regularly, your body sends blood to your genitals quicker and more intensely whenever you’re involved in sex.

Battle Obesity With Your Diet

In addition to exercise, you can battle obesity with what you put in your cart at the grocery store.  Buying any number of organic foods can have a positive effect on your sex life and can lead to increased libido.  These foods include: asparagus, chocolate, oysters, salmon, strawberries, pomegranates and other foods rich in antioxidants, fatty acids and zinc.  These foods work to boost your mood and increase your libido.

Eating healthy foods can help you to feel better about yourself and your body and will work to boost the level of confidence that you have in yourself.  When you have confidence in your body, you won’t be nervous in the sack or covering yourself when the time comes for sex.

Share Your Body With Your Partner

If you have been too busy being worried about the state of your body to enjoy sex, then you are basically sabotaging your own pleasure.  Women spend too much time focused on their perceived physical flaws and not enough time accepting themselves for what they are.

Instead of focusing too much on what you think is wrong with your body, work to get more comfortable with it.  After showering, walk around your bedroom naked and get comfortable with the way your body looks naked.  This might do wonders in silencing your inner critic and give you the confidence you need to leave your worries behind for mind blowing sex.

The chances are good that your partner hasn’t even noticed the things you dislike most about your body, so stop fretting about it and get down to business.  If you’re preoccupied, you sabotage your chances at reaching orgasm.

If you want an extra boost in getting your partner motivated, invite them to have a workout at the gym with you.  You’ll both see benefits inside the bedroom and out!

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Sexual Performance Anxiety: What It Is And What To Do

sexual-anxietySexual Performance Anxiety is when the sexual act doesn’t come natural to you or you have some irrational fear of how to complete the act of sex with your partner.  If sex doesn’t feel like it’s natural or it makes you feel anxious in any way, you may be suffering from sexual performance anxiety.

If you are experiencing thoughts or emotions that prevent you from engaging in sexual intercourse, you are probably experiencing sexual anxiety.  It can work to cause nervousness in your mind and make you second guess yourself while you’re trying to engage in sexual activity.

If you have experienced sexual performance anxiety, then read on to find out what you can do to battle the thoughts in your head that are keeping you from a joyful sexual experience.

Feeling like you don’t measure up is a root cause of anxiety and can lead you to doubting your ability to perform at all.

Causes Of Sexual Performance Anxiety

Generally speaking, there are three main causes: fear, your self-image and your self-esteem.

Fear: If you fear or worry about something sexually, it can make you feel anxious in the bedroom.  You may fear that you don’t know what your partner likes and you end up worrying about whether or not you’re going to disappoint him/her.  If you have preconceived notions about what sex is, based on religion or popular media, then you may constantly fear that you’re not living up to your partner’s standards.

Self-Image: Thinking that some part of your body or the way you look is bad can lead you to not performing your best in the bedroom.  Whether you think you’re overweight or your breasts are too small, thinking like this can sabotage your actions in the sack.

Self-Esteem: This is basically how you view yourself and it can go a long way in building or destroying your confidence in the bedroom.  If you feel poorly about yourself, then the chances are high that you don’t feel deserving of quality sexual experiences.

What You Can Do About It

If you are battling sexual performance anxiety, then you are not alone.  The good news is that if your anxieties center on fear, self-image or self-esteem, then there is help for overcoming your issues in the bedroom.

The first step to overcoming problems in the bedroom is to realize that there is a problem that you’re facing.  Once you make this realization, you are able to accept the problem and then begin to face it.  See it for what it is and how it’s dragging your healthy life down the drain.

If you have previously had bad sexual experiences, then it is best to use them as learning experiences so that you are able to move on.  You deserve to enjoy a healthy sex life, so leave the past in the past and look to the future.

With problems in the self-image category, you might see things about your body that you wish you can change.  If you can change these things, then work toward that solution.  However, if you are with a loving partner, then this person probably already likes you for the way you are.  That is the ideal relationship, so if your partner accepts you as you are, then you should work to do the same.

With regard to problems with self-esteem, you should focus on what you like about yourself.  Forget about what others may think of you or your body and focus on the positive aspects of who you are.  Let your guilt and other inhibitions go and enjoy yourself and your partner.

If you understand why you’re having sexual anxiety, then you can begin to work on that aspect of your life to eliminate it completely.  Think back to your first sexual experience and ask yourself if it went down just like you thought it should.  Usually, when you are satisfied with how things turned out with your first sexual experience, your mind builds from that and it leads to a healthy, fulfilling sex life.  When things go wrong, that is where the anxiety usually begins and leads to even more problems down the road.

For those that don’t know how to proceed accordingly in order to complete a sex act, it can lead to a feeling of anxiety that can be overwhelming for you.  Naturally, this feeling of anxiety basically overrides any other feelings you have until you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing at all.  To battle that, practice the sex act with your partner until you get things just the way you both like them.  Not only will you rid yourself of this unnecessary anxiety, but you will both have a great deal of fun in the process.

Ask For Support

It all boils down to having confidence in yourself and what you can accomplish with your partner in the bedroom.  You may need that added push from your partner – offering support in times when you feel your level of confidence in yourself slipping away.

Talk to your partner and ask him/her for support during times when you feel anxious.  Maybe just hearing the words “you’re good enough,” “this feels great,” or “this is perfect” might work to help you overcome feelings of anxiety during sexual intercourse.

If All Else Fails, Talk To Your Doctor

If you have worked hard to try and eliminate sexual performance anxiety, you may want to try any number of aphrodisiacs.  There are foods out there that work to increase your libido so that you can enjoy sexual relations with your partner.  Try adding almonds, pomegranates, oysters and garlic to your diet in order to amp things up in the bedroom.  While these food items may work for some, they don’t work for everybody and there could be an underlying health condition at work.  If all else fails, it might be best to talk to your doctor and get a professional opinion so that you can be on your way to having fulfilling sex that you and your partner will both enjoy.